Accept that the Parent-Child Dynamic Has Changed
Your child is always your child, and will need you as much as ever. However, parents need to understand that their role has transitioned from “supervisor” to “mentor.”
Make the Move Simple
Do not bring the moving van. Not only will it embarrass your child, but dorm rooms just aren’t that large. Bring only what’s seasonal appropriate.
Consider pre-ordering essentials (soap, bedding, shower caddy, etc.) for pick-up at a location by the school. This will save space whether your trip is by car or plane.
Don’t Leave “The Talk” to the Drop-off
While college represents a gateway to many wonderful experiences, parents will want to have a serious conversation about safety, responsible behavior, finances and expectations about staying in touch.
Do not leave it for the drop-off. It is sure to sour the moment, and rush a conversation that deserves more time and mutual dialogue.
Time to Learn Financial Responsibility
Your child will need spending money. You may want to provide a debit card attached to an account that has a set sum for the full semester, or one that’s refreshed with monthly deposits. College is a perfect time to learn budgeting.
Take the Lead from Your Child
Let your child have the discretion to make decisions about what to bring. However important you think a dust skirt for the bed is, try to avoid fiats. Let your child make a mistake. It’s the best way to learn.
Your child will likely send signals when it’s time to go. Listen to them. It’s time for him or her to begin connecting with new roommates. Expect that final “good-bye dinner” to be canceled since your child may prefer an impromptu introductory dinner with the new roommate.
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